Their Mars in your 7th house

You say it straight to each other

In synastry, you place one person's planets into the other person's houses. When someone's Mars, how you act, falls in your 7th house, Bonds, that part of them shows up in the part of your life about relationships, partners, marriage.

What it's like

Disagreements come out into the open, which is uncomfortable and also healthy. This person challenges you in partnership, and learning to fight fair is the real prize here.

The good

They challenge you in ways that help you grow

The tension

Disagreements can feel like a contest

It depends who they are

The same placement plays out differently with a partner, an ex or your mum.

If they're your partner

You say it straight to each other

This person says it plainly and expects the same back. Disagreements are honest and loud, which clears the air if you both stay fair.

If they're a crush

They bring friction and fire

With this person, attraction can feel like sparring. Differences come out fast, and so does the charge.

If they're an ex

They made the bond a contest

With this person in your partnership house, attraction and arguments arrived together. You learned how you handle conflict, which is useful whatever else happened.

If they're a friend

They say it straight

If you've done something annoying this person will tell you, face to face. They bring honesty and a bit of spice to your closest bonds, and expect you to match it.

If they're family

They go head to head with you

This person is not afraid to disagree with you to your face. Rows between you are loud, honest and then oddly forgotten.

The other way round: Your Mars in their 7th house

You challenge them head on

Your Mars in this person's 7th makes the bond feel like a sparring match. They get clear about what they will not tolerate, and clear about what they want.

About Mars

Mars is your drive: how you go after things, how you get angry and how you get moving on a Monday. It's courage, sex drive and the urge to win, all in one slightly sweaty package.

About the 7th house, Bonds

The 7th house is about the people you pair up with: partners, spouses, best friends and business allies, plus the occasional worthy rival. It shows what you look for in another person and what they mirror back.

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